I have been out most of today, I went out with a couple of friends for lunch. I am hardly the person who goes out with people on a regular basis. For me, it takes an extra effort to do it, and today I took that extra effort. It’s almost the nth time I have been invited to some thing, and I try to slip away every time. I just got tired of running away. It’s not like I am anti-social, but I think I have phases, but almost all my phases prefer solitude or someone I am close with. Intimate conversations, just hanging around, cooking together, talking about life, and love, sharing experiences over meals, or coffee and those things bring in a lot of joy when I am with someone close to me. And with others, I don’t know or with acquaintances, sometimes it feels like an effort; I just feel alone at such times. But isn’t it all life is about, moving out of your comfort zone, testing waters beyond, discarding old impressions, creating new ones and living every moment. So, I went.
We drove to this real nice city, about an hour or so and had some Indian food. This is the second time I am in a Indian restaurant here in Germany, first when dad came here to visit me. I thought feeding him sandwiches, cakes, and salads wouldn’t look too great on the report card he would present to mom! Second time for a year or more, I have lived here. I would say, not bad! The food was pretty bland even for me, whose tolerance to spice has come down drastically over the last couple of years. And I am not a Indian food enthusiast, when I visit or travel to a new place, and people ask me if I want to eat Indian food, I look at them strangely. I just don’t get it! If I need Indian food I would cook something at home, maybe ten times healthier minus three times tastier. But I am always trying to see something new, taste something local and vegetarian if possible. I guess, people are just trying to make you feel comfortable and at home, staying like a million miles away from home, can’t really blame them.
It’s always an interesting experience when I visit, Indian restaurants in different countries, US, Germany and LOL, once in Hongkong. It’s amazing the aura they create inside, I would bet that not even in India do they decorate and light up the place like the way they do it here. Of course, it is all about wooing customers to come in and keep on coming. The lamps, the statues, the carpets, the colorful hangings, the antique feel, I think if it were possible, they would manage to get the camels and elephants in too! And even the menu, for me, is so interesting. I am always trying to see how they explain Indian intricate cooking in German, it’s amazing! They make you feel like, the chicken, veggies, whatever is almost created in heaven, and just brought down to earth, for your surreal experience alone. I am not condemning anything, and I sincerely hope I am not misread here; but I guess all my Chinese friends are sitting, eating Chinese food in all these other countries shaking their head in plain disbelief and amusement as well. But hands down, after such a heavy meal, nothing beats our Chai, with spices and ginger to finish it all off. Period.
Anyway, after the meal, we went out and walked around the river. My friends are Bulgarian, and they have this tiny 5-month old baby. I am in love with children, kids, small babies, toddlers, anything and everything that resembles gurgles and toothless smiles. Even the slightly bigger ones are ok. It’s always a pleasure to look after the baby, I want to sit around it, talk to it, and keep putting my face close enough to make it all suffocating, but it’s all fun. So, as you might guess, all I remember from this day, is tiny ‘Victor’ gurgling away each time I spoke to him, ‘staring’ at half clad women dressed in low cut saris on the menu (which of course his dad denies vehemently!) and grabbing my rings to take a quick look and lick. It was a fun day.
After that, we drove back, and as it was evening by the time we entered our non-descript village. We went to our friend’s place, baked some simple cake and shared it over hot tea. We just sat in the living room, making conversation till our stomachs were about to burst and I walked back home in the dark. All the while, I was happy, it’s fun to have children, to nurture, to grow along side, to be a parent, to teach lame things, to see their antics and find it funny and yet be proud. I think in some vague way, children bring out the best in you, and they balance you in and out. On that note, Have a fab week.